Just when we thought Beyonce couldn't do anything more to secure her title as the reigning Queen of Pop and all things excellent, she went ahead and made a documentary.
"Beyonce: Life Is But A Dream," an autobiographical, self-produced film starring, you guessed it, Beyonce, premiered on February 16th on HBO.
Of course there were elements of the ridiculous: Bey pensively holding a hairdryer (wasn't that a camera???) on a Paris balcony, random prolonged shots of trees, pretty much no one speaking but Beyonce and the revelation that the singer has had a videographer filming her 24/7 for years. Still, we couldn't help but enjoy the glimpse into the pop star's -- and her 1-year-old daughter Blue Ivy's -- life.
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1. Know when it's time to set boundaries.
At the beginning of the film, Beyonce opens up about making the tough decision to break professional ties with her father, Matthew Knowles in 2011. "I needed a break, I needed my dad," she says. "I had to let go." Although the move ultimately caused tension between her and her father, it's important to recognize when you need space from another person -- whether or not that person is a parent -- and ask for it.
2. Let other people see your vulnerabilities sometimes.
You might think, watching footage of then-pregnant Beyonce singing and dancing on stage in heels and sparkly, revealing leotard, that this woman has never had an insecure moment in her life. Not true, says Beyonce. At one point in the film, she reflects on coming to the realization that she needed to “stop pretending that I have it all together and if I’m scared, be scared." Letting those around you see your flaws and your doubts doesn't make you weak, it makes you human.
3. There's no therapy like being heard and understood by another woman.
The woman who thinks girls run the world also sees the value in close female friendship. “I love my husband, but it is nothing like a conversation with a woman that understands you. I grow so much from those conversations," she says. We tend to agree.
7. Pick a life partner you can be goofy around.
One of the sweetest moments of "Life Is But A Dream" is old footage of Beyonce and Jay-Z singing Coldplay's "Yellow." It's candid and adorable, and their love for each other is clear. “It’s every woman’s dream to feel this way about someone," says Bey, talking about her relationship with Mr. Carter. A cheesy collective "awwwww" was really the only possible response here.
8. Don't be afraid to express your wants and needs.
One thing that came across strongly in the film was that Beyonce does not compromise when it comes to her career. If she has an opinion on how a show should be lit or staged, she won't hesitate to speak up. “I’m like most women -- very generous, and I’ll compromise," she says in the movie. "I used to be afraid of people thinking I was difficult or too critical, and you know, I dont really care about that anymore." Be your own advocate, no matter who thinks you're "difficult."
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